THE FOLLOWING IS AN EMAIL I SENT AROUND MY WORK, WHERE THE ATMOSPHERE TENDS TO LEAD PEOPLE TO CONSTANT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, VIEWS AND ATTITUDES —- TIME TO CHANGE THE THINKING.
READ THIS EMAIL IF YOU HAVE A SPARE MOMENT — WORDS OF WISDOM FROM RUTHO !!!!!! – FILL THE GLASS OR EMPTY IT – YOUR CHOICE
I decided I was going to write this email 1. After our applied leadership training 2. After reading a lot of positive stuff on the internet ( peoples blogs etc) and 3.Because I believe it may prevent some people from spiralling down a path of stress and trauma caused by negativity.
AM I ALWAYS POSITIVE ? – Of course not !!! Just listen to my dummy spits downstairs sometimes, and you will know that certainly isn’t the case. But I regret that for most of my 32 years with this job, and in adulthood, I have allowed myself to look to the negative far too much. I know that at times I surrounded myself with too many negative people (sound familiar within the force). It is so true that if you surround yourself with negative people you will be that. If you surround yourself with positive people, you will take that path. I know the negative side has held me back, and I know now that it is not the best way to go.
At the Applied Leadership it was acknowledged, (not that it needed highlighting), that unfortunately due to the conflict, trauma, bad human traits etc, that we witness in this job, policing by its very reality is negative. However if we take off the blinkers we will see that there are many positives as well. The community, by and large, do appreciate us. We, by and large, are winning the fight (statistics show it). There are (yes you know it) more good people in the world than bad. For every hoodlum down at the park drinking on Saturday nights, there are hundreds of kids the same age at home with their families. For every drunken idiot, there are many more people just out for a good time. I could go on and on.
I was thinking about what I was going to write here, and I came up with my own analogy in relation to thinking all is bad and negative. DEFENSIVE DRIVING –v– LIFE AND THE FUTURE IN GENERAL.
To be a good defensive driver you shouldn’t focus all your attention on the car in front, but look as far down the road as possible to see the hazards and risks ahead – True. To be a positive person and see how life really is, you should not just look at the things immediately confronting, and in front of you, but further into the future where there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. We know that this is true, otherwise we wouldn’t start a relationship, start a family. In fact we wouldn’t start anything. Why would you bring a child into a world with the thinking that all will be bad! I don’t think you would.
I honestly believe I see some people going about their job thinking all sucks. Everything and everyone is bad. The sky is always falling. I honestly believe I see some people who, because of this attitude are heading for a depressive type crash. Remember – it really isn’t that bad !!!!. If you think it is, you might have to look at other options.
I am not going to go on and on, and I must here stick in a caviet – IF YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING IT TOUGH AND NEED HELP – PUT YOUR HAND UP AND SEEK ASSISTANCE.
So – fill the glass, don’t empty it. Always look on the bright side of life. Look in the mirror. You and your life isn’t bad, so why do you think everyone else’s is.
You may not agree with all I have written, but hopefully you get the underlying meaning. If you don’t agree, so be it as that is your choice.
I just hope that for the next ??? years of my life within the cops, I can personally be, and encourage others to be, far more positive about all things in life.
Can we always be positive? Of course not, and perhaps that is where the discussion changes from Positive –v- Negative to Dreams –v- Reality. But as Ringo Starr always said at the end of Thomas the Tank Engine Episodes – “that’s another story”.
Until then – ALWAYS LOOK TO THE POSITIVES.